I Miss Grandma at Christmas Time…

…She was the one reason that everyone came together and endured each others differences and dammit, whether we admitted it or not, we enjoyed it. It’s kind of nice to come together with the people that you usually don’t see eye to eye with. Share some laughter, food, gifts. Remind each other that no matter what the differences, we’re still a family, and we’ll always be there to look out for each other. Grandma didn’t care that you fought with your brother last month and still haven’t talked; she just wanted you to be there. Grandma was a uniter. She seeked to find common ground between the deer hunter(my dad) and the card carrying PETA member(me in my early 20’s) and she often did. Grandma was ultimately, dare I say a socialist. What,  with her radical ideas like, instead of one person cooking the whole Christmas Dinner, she said “Let’s all bring a dish, that way everyone contributes and no one gets too wore-out from cooking all day.” Revolutionary. She was amazing that way. When someone was out of work, it was Grandma who suggested that we put a lower spending limit on the gift exchange, just until the economy picked up…always looking out for those who did not or would not speak up for themselves.
As we embark on this election season, I am reminded of Grandma and that feeling of unity that she encompassed. I don’t know how the elections will turn out, but I sure hope that the rest of America is like me, missing that feeling of connectedness to the rest of our family, no matter the differences, and looking for that “Grandma” to unite us. We’ve had enough division, don’t you think?


7 Responses

  1. Grandma sounds a lot like Fidel Castro, is that who we want to elect as our el presidente?

    In all seriousness, I agree with you, that as a family we should all help each other out. But we do that of ur own choice, not because someone makes us. Also, as a family we don’t give cash to our broke bother who has no money because he’s always drunk. That scenario should not equate to a government of a free soceity.

    If you equate Grandma to our current tax system, your story would be a little different. Grandma wouldn’t have asked everyone to bring a dish. She would have made the richest member bring the turkey, the next richest bring the side dishes, and the rest could come eat for free and not bring anything. Same for the gift exchange. The richest family members would be forced to buy everyone a $50 gift, and also give $50 to the poor members so they can buy gifts too.

    Sure, a government can give a man a fish and feed him for today, but the government can’t teach a man to fish so he’ll eat for a lifetime.

    Ok, now I’m headed to Captain D’s. Merry Christmas everybody!

  2. What I wouldn’t give for another Christmas Eve at Granny’s house!!! That was magicial! And the one I miss the most was not my “blood-kin”, but the family that I married. I ‘m so glad that my children, niece, and nephew got to experience that specialness. Walt Disney must’ve been a distant family member, because wow…!!!

  3. hrrrmm- michaelinLV- I don’t propose a leader to be quite the socialist ideologue that grandma was, but merely one who keeps the span of the “family” in mind, that family being us, the citizens. One who realizes that as a country, we do help each other out, as long as we’re helping our selves. The main point of that was in the hopes of a leader who truly is a uniter, bringing the opposing sides of the political spectrum to an amicable state. Oh, and Grandma didn’t cut out the drunk relative, she urged them to seek the help they needed to become a productive member of the family. And guess what. They did. I believe the government can indeed teach a man and a woman and a child to fish…it’s the government’s most viable option for a self sufficient, productive, lively population.

  4. As I sit here and read this story, so many good memories have run through my mind. What I bring out of this is not that NFCookies thinks that we should have free handouts, but that the “ole Time” feeling of caring for our neighbors is no longer an oppostion. My grandparents ran the local store in a small West Tenn. town. Marjority of the people were farmers. I can remember my grandparents giving credit for food and when the farmers got paid the first stop was at the store to pay their debit. Grandmother Hopper never gave out freebies, but new of the hardships that certain HARD working families were having and she would work with them on payments. She expected everyone to work and pay their part. When my grandfather fell ill and could no longer run the store, neighbors would often stop by just to talk and visit with him. I was very fortunate to have both sets of hard working grandparents and both sets were always willing to do their part to help neighbors when neighbors were willing to try and help themselves. Gooch, how I love remembering my family and I must agree with NFCookies we might want to look back at the “Ole Timers and learn !!!!!!!!!

  5. Alderman Mosley,
    Yes, you nailed it. Thank you for getting the story as it was intended. I think that there is a lot to be said for that Ole Time ability to find common ground and work from there, and I believe that we’ve forgotten quite a bit about how to do it today.

  6. We were military so I scarcely ever met relatives outside of my immediate family. My mom used to do ALL of the cooking for T’giving and Xmas and it would wear her out. She gave up around 1990 and went potluck, and everything about the holidays improved! Instead of people quietly (and often sullenly) sitting around, eating as fast as possible, we got to talking. Everyone had given something, so everyone had something to talk about. Relations improved every time we did this.

    So hooray for potluck holiday dinners!!

  7. What we as a society are really missing is the “grassroots” feeling of community. I’ll be the first to admit I hardly know anyone in my neighborhood, aside from the family across the way, and it’s probably my own fault. With so many options to stay in touch (email, Bluetooth, texting, etc.) it’s ironic how distant we are from one another. So I’m trying to really branch out and get to know neighbors, co-workers, etc. as an ongoing project (even though I’m shy by nature!) I would never hesitate, though, to help out a friend or neighbor in need.

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